WE’RE 7 MONTHS TODAY

Joe and I got married exactly 7 months ago, surrounded with our beautiful family and friends who traveled near and far (some traveled halfway across the world) to see us get hitched. Our solemnization night was stunning, every time I re-watch the wedding video and flip through the photos I am always in awe with how much love we were surrounded with that night. The setup of the place was no exception, we spent months pulling our hair and scratching our heads to make sure that everything happens smoothly, but we also wanted our guests to have fun. I learnt a lot from planning this wedding. My biggest lesson is to CHERISH every moment that you have leading up to the event, the little things don’t matter, spending quality time with your family and best friends are far more important than making sure that the flowers are exactly the same or how your bridesmaid’s outfit will look like.

When I think about the events leading up to the wedding, I wish I hugged and my parents a bit more, cuddled with them instead of arguing which colour my dress should be. I wish I spent more quality time with my sister and my girlfriends instead of spending my free time looking out for wedding ideas on Pinterest. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything but if I could make these changes, I would, because the time you spend with your family and friends is irreplaceable, it’s something you can never get back once its gone.

They say being married is a blessing, I disagree – because that’s an understatement. Being married to my husband is more than a blessing because he’s the most amazing person I know. Throughout these 7 months, it hasn’t been all sunshine and rainbows for the both of us. I knew from the very beginning that marriage isn’t like that, I never had high expectations of being married because I know it’s not all fun and games when you start sharing responsibilities and problems with one another. But what I realize about being married to Joe is that no matter how wrong one of us may be in different fights or situations, we learn, we forgive and we move on.

My dad was right, during his speech on my wedding night he said that ‘One day when you look back to this day, you’re going to realize that this is the night that you love each other the least’. I can’t imagine how it’s going to be like in the years to come, but that’s okay, at least we have each other. As much as Joe and I are so lucky to have one other, we’re so blessed because our family is our family, and we know we can count on our beautiful friends for anything and vice versa. They’re family too. You know who you are.

Happy 7 months anniversary to my best friend, the love of my life, the answer to my prayers and the person I patiently waited for all these years. May we grow into better people in years to come, may our children grow up knowing that we love and respect one another and may we share the same spot in heaven with our loved ones, insyaAllah.